Whats your stance on COUPLES THERAPY???

First off I am impress that you are so honest to yourself and that you recognized and admit there's a problem so that is a plus. This means there's hope. In answer to your question, Yes I think it's a wonderful idea to see couples therapy but I also think that you both need individual therapy in addition. I hear your willingness to change and I hope that he does even more than you do. Although I think it's very hard to change, with determination and hard work it's possible. I'm not saying that it's going to be easy for any of you. It is quite obvious that you both love each other and part of loving one another means willingness to change if there is a toxic issue that harms one another or your self. You both need to find a good therapist that you can have the right chemistry with...some one you both feel comfortable with and effective.The right one can help you change that and achieve your goal of getting better. I believe we all could used a good therapist in life. I've seen one and I think it helps you see a different out look and perspective on your life. You have courage and determination, give it a try and good luck.